Avoiding, becoming

Teddy Zee (source)
+ full context: Zee speaking in a podcast with David Chang about how in doing everything to avoid the same relationship he had with his father, he ended up having the same relationship with his children

Reminds me of Marshall McLuhan’s rear-view mirror syndrome mentioned in Teaching as a Subversive Activity:

Getting rear-ended by the past vs. crashing forward into the past — what’s the difference?